Dying with a mortgage: What happens to your home?

Elderly man and younger woman holding mortgage

Once upon a time, paying off the mortgage was a rite of passage for many Americans as they reached retirement, marking a time of life when they were largely debt-free.

But the housing market crash of 2008 and the failure of many of us to save enough for retirement have worked together to end that fairy tale.

Today, more of us are carrying home loans into our golden years, or even taking on new mortgage debt by tapping our home equity to pay the bills.

Data from the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics indicates 30% of Americans ages 65-74 still hold a mortgage, and even 14% of us who are 75 and older are saddled with home debt.

Those numbers have risen dramatically since 2001, according to an earlier study by the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau, as has the average mortgage balance older Americans are carrying.

So what happens when the property — and the debt — land in the laps of heirs?

The simple answer is that the mortgage comes with the house, says Stuart F. Ebby, a lawyer and real estate expert with the Philadelphia firm of Hangley Aronchick Segal Pudlin & Schiller.

But nothing is ever simple, right?

So here are six scenarios that could happen if you hold a home loan when you die, including one that could catch your heirs by surprise, even if you've paid off the mortgage.

In each of these instances, Frank Donnelly, a mortgage banker with EverBank in Fairfax, Virginia, says heirs should contact the lender soon after a death to discuss their options.

While deciding what to do, it's important to keep the loan current. Donnelly notes, "You don't want it to go into foreclosure."

Most mortgages also require that the home be kept in reasonable repair, Donnelly says, so taxes and insurance should be paid up.

Scenario 1. Your heirs take over your loan.

In most instances, federal law allows for the transfer of the loan to a relative or other heir when you die.

Although most home loans contain a due-on-sale or acceleration clause that allows a lender to demand immediate and full payment upon transfer or sale of the home, transfers due to death are exempt.

This means your heirs would take on your home loan with the same interest rate and payment you have.

"It's just as though it were handed to you by a deed," though you may have to follow legal formalities, such as filing a will or letters of administration in probate court, says Ebby, who is also an adjunct professor of law at the University of Pennsylvania Law School.

Should you pay extra on your mortgage?

Paying off your home loan more quickly can save tens of thousands of dollars in interest charges. But before you start sending your spare cash to your lender, you need to make sure your overall finances are in order. Paying extra on your mortgage isn't always the smartest use of your money.

 

Scenario 2. Your heirs refinance the home loan.

If heirs want to keep a home, Ebby says, in many cases they would refinance the loan – especially if they can get a lower interest rate or reduced monthly payments.

If your heirs can't qualify for a new loan but can afford to make monthly payments, they can always keep the original mortgage.

Scenario 3. Your heirs get the property free and clear.

If your relatives are lucky, your estate may have enough funds to simply pay off the loan. In this case, you'll have to direct in your will that other assets in the estate be sold to retire the mortgage.

If you took out a mortgage protection insurance policy, that would automatically pay off any balance.

But should an older homeowner buy such a policy specifically for that possibility?

"Usually, the cost of the policy isn't justified," Ebby says.

The exception to the rule would be if you know your heirs cannot afford the payments or qualify for a refinancing.

If so, such an insurance policy would solve the problem.

Scenario 4. Your heirs can't afford the monthly payments.

If the mortgage is too much for your heirs to handle, they can sell the home or, in the most extreme case, simply walk away.

In instances where the loan is underwater — when the home is worth less than the balance on the mortgage — walking away might be the wisest move.

"They can just give it to the lender," Ebby says. "And if it's really underwater, and it looks like it's going to stay underwater, it makes sense to walk away."

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Otherwise — say, if there's a sentimental attachment to the home and heirs want to keep it — "then you have to try to get together with the lender and see if you can work something out," Ebby says.

You can start by asking the lender to forgive some of the debt, Donnelly says. But that almost never happens.

Lenders are far more likely to accept a short sale that allows your heirs to sell the property for less than the outstanding debt, with the bank agreeing not to hold your estate liable for the loss.

If your heirs simply stop making the monthly payments and your home falls into foreclosure, the lender could sue your estate to recoup its losses.

But that, too, rarely happens.

"What's the point of going against the estate unless you can collect?" Ebby says. "And if the estate was in such poor condition that you foreclosed, what's the chance you would collect the deficiency?"

Scenario 5. You took out a reverse mortgage prior to your death.

This is another matter entirely. A reverse mortgage is a lien on the home. If there is no co-borrower — or the co-borrower is also dead or no longer living in the home — the loan comes due when the borrower dies.

The heirs will only inherit the home itself if the reverse mortgage balance can be paid off without selling the property.

To accomplish that, your heirs would have to pay off the balance with cash from the estate or another source, or take out a new loan.

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The more likely outcome is that your heirs will inherit whatever equity is left after the home is sold and the lender repaid.

Scenario 6. Your home is seized to pay other debts.

It might not matter what your heirs want to do with your home — even one that is paid off and has no mortgage — if you leave lots of other unpaid bills.

If a house is the only significant asset you leave behind, some states can require it to be sold to pay off non-mortgage debts.

In Arizona, for example, the deceased's "legitimate creditors are paid before any assets are distributed pursuant to the will," says Jeremy Sohn, an estate and trust attorney in Tucson.

The only way your heirs might avoid a forced sale is if they use their money to repay your debts, even though they're not directly liable for what you still owe unless they cosigned originally, Sohn notes.

But one way or another, the bills must be paid.

In other states, however, estate law doesn't allow creditors to force the sale of a house to collect non-mortgage debt.

Of course, that doesn’t mean creditors won't pester surviving family members for payment and suggest that selling the house is the "fair" or "moral" thing to do.

If this comes up, checking with an estate attorney is the only wise thing to do.

  • Lavonne Chambers

    My mom died and had a reverse mortgage on the property..my attorney put the deed I'm my name since I was going to get a loan to pay mortgage company off but I think he should not have done that because now lenders will not let me get a loan because the deed is in my name but the money owed is in my mom name..how can I get the corrected so that my name is not in the deed and I can get the property??

  • Ericka Michal

    When I was a mortgage loan officer, I had a client that paid the landlord's mortgage for 12+ months directly to the landlord's lender, from their (renter) bank account. They were able to refinance into their name, pay off the landlord's loan, and the remaining proceeds went to the landlord as part of a purchase and sale.

    As I understand it, paying the lender directly from your account for 12+ months gives you a claim on the property. If this is so, would that not also allow for a refinance of a deceased loved one's home into the heir(s)' name?

  • tara

    I was advised by a lawyer at the time of my Moms death to put the house in my name even though the loan remains in my her name. He said that is what I should do and to not tell them of her passing. I have kept the pymts up but I can no longer do so. It has been suggested that what he did may have not been right and that is is less the honest. Help

  • B. Smith

    Hello. My mom recently passed on this year on Feb 1st. I was put on the deed as joint tenant with rights of survivorship, in Jan of this year and I am on all her bank accounts. However, the mortgage is in her name but I plan on continuing to pay. Is this ok?. I'm kinda lost because they just canceled her home insurance due to her being deceased. Will they find out about the mortgage being in her name and her being deceased?. Thank you for any information that you may be able to provide. It stressed out about it all.

    • Philosopher Deplorabilis

      See a lawyer!

  • Timothy Moore

    I have my grandmothers home that my dad and Uncle sign off on. There was no lien and I was put in my wife's name the bank will not talk to me and say because I own the home I have to pay by August of this year or they take it. My father and uncle where in charge of her estate and didn't pay the bank. Can the bank still take the home even if my wife name is on it and where not on the loan

  • LauraandJoe Amedeo

    what do I do if I have put my home in my sons name and my son passes away before I do?

    • Carly J Worden

      put the home in both your names

    • Philosopher Deplorabilis

      A revocable living trust. Put his name on it.

  • pete aball

    I own 2 homes a rental and my own, they both have balances of around $50,000 and are worth around $90,000 each right now. I have no relatives living in the USA, I want my Son to have both the houses if anything happens to me. but im not sure if he can even take over the financing or can i put him on both the mortgages, so he is the joint owner? and would that make it easier for him to do whatever he wants to if anything happens to me? I'm worried the bank might just sell them and give him no rights at all

    • nickysue

      purchase a life insurance policy and make your son the beneficiary with enough money to pay off the homes, honestly i wish my mother had a life ins policy, even enough to just pay off her home, instead she did not and her bf was living in the home until recently and it got forclosed on for non payment, so now us kids have lost my mothers home that she has had for many years, a life insurance policy is the best way to go about making sure there is money to pay off the homes & MAKE A WILL leaving everything to said son

      • Philosopher Deplorabilis

        Make a will. Exactly. Those insurance policies that pay off the house on death are looking like a good thing to do.

  • david fellows

    I am single no kids so what difference does it make.

    • Philosopher Deplorabilis

      Same here. The answer? None, really. It won't matter to you. Still you are giving any equity back to the bank. You could do a revocable living trust and put what you want in a will. Leave the place to a friend or caregiver.

  • Carly J Worden

    I inherited a house with my bother 50/50 too. You are each responsible for it. My brother had no money so I took out what he owed me when we sold it and then gave him his share.

  • Karen Francis

    My husbamd passed away on May 2nd there was no will, i am not on the deed or the mortgage. We were living off of his ssd. I have had alot of health problems and per dr. I have been unable to work, my ssd appeals hearing will not be until the end of this year. With the help of my cousin and sister i am able to pay the house payment. I know i have to file probate i am not concerned there but i am terrified to contact PNC mortgage i am afraid they have the right to take my home. I am afraid they will make me show proof of income, make me refinace or remortgage in order to keep the home. I dont know how to approach them if this is not the case based on my rights as his wife under the law. I thought i would fall under the Garn St. Germain law legally goving me the right to keep my husbands mortgage and terms without any requirments for income, refinance, or remortgage (i would not qualify) . I have read horror storeies of companies forcing this on those who have lost their spouse. Any direction would help me. I dont want to lose our home. Thank you

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  • MING

    Mother passed away No will, i've been paying her mortgage for thee past 3 years . her mortgage ,she owes $80000 .
    i pay her home equity loan every month which she owes $20000
    and her hm ins. WHAT HAPPENS IF I STOP PAYING ON HOME EQUITY LOAN THAT SHE TOOK OUT ? Will lender allow me to just transfer deed? in state of az law states that if home value is $10000 or less i do not have to go through probate. is this so?

    • Philosopher Deplorabilis

      The only way to avoid probate is to have a will and a revocable living trust set up in advance. Cheap on Legal Zoom or similar sites.

  • intrepidsoul

    Can you let me know what happened to you, I'm in the same boat.

  • Sandy Butler

    I am preparing a will for my father. However, my name is not on the deed. How does that work with a will? Will the other owners be responible for paying the mortgage.

    • Philosopher Deplorabilis

      Revocable living trust. Suze Orman talks about them all the time. And ask him to have your name added to the deed. It usually requires a form be filled out at the tax assessor's office for your county. As long as your father is of sound mind and body it shouldn't be a problem. Pay the fee, add your name, done.

  • Who else

    I am a widow with a rental , fully paid for and a home with a 90k mortgage left on it . Its over half paid for ... My concern is will the bank own the home and all I paid in or will my son get some back that I have paid on? I know i need to see an attorney to settle this ....

  • Who else

    Never trust siblings when a home is left to all of them .... forced sales suck

    • frances beard

      really... how does a forced sale suck?

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  • Larry Diaz

    This really sucks and there should be a law protecting the elderly about predatory mortgage lenders. My mother passed in December 2015 at 85 years old and she never let anyone know about her fiances and pretty much told myself and my siblings to mind our own . It was after she passed we discovered she mortgaged the home that we grew up in and my parents owned for over 40 years. She was way underwater and we had no choice but to either walkaway or complete a short sale. We did the latter . Turns out that TWO BANKS BOFA and Chase approved the loans when she was 74 years with payment terms exceeding 10+ years. How is this possible and why is this legal? Should lenders not REQUIRE insurance to cover the loan in the event of the borrower dying especially if they are elderly? Our home as been sold and both lenders will receive substantially less then what was owed. I really hate the fact that we could do nothing to prevent this and that these asshole lenders could legally lend to someone who would obviously not be around to see the loan paid off.

    • JD

      Are you kidding? The lenders lost a lot of money and your mom made out like a bandit. She collected all that money that they lent to her and never repaid it!

      Be mad on behalf of the lenders' shareholders or be mad that stealing money was so easy, but to say that your mother was a victim is absurd!

  • Val LeGault

    My partner of 19 years passed. Everything was in his name. I was named in the will to receive everything that we accumulated in the 19 years together.
    His 3 kids got mad and took me to court claiming the signature was not his.
    I have transferred the home to me, the named Executor.
    I was forced into a $25,000.00 settlement with the children of which I have already paid them $7,500.00 and balance of $17,500.00 due on October 21st
    What can the children do legally if I can't pay them because there is not enough assets to sell and pay them?

    • kitten

      I have a simular situation, my friend of 25 years had a stroke, he owns a farm worth 300,000. his cousins start comming out of the wood works, one took POA I am named in the will he was to leave me his home and the farm to the other family, the POA is going to sell the home for hospital bills and keep the farm if she sells and something happens to him is he entitled to keep the remaining assets from the sell

  • Julie Willitts

    My father purchased a home in 2010 with Wells Fargo for the mortgage, which btw they are the worst company to have a mortgage with, we did the whole assumption process, basically applied for a mortgage with no down payment. They came back saying we didn't have enough credit because we only had $4,500 in our sons student loans, told us to get like 2-3 credit cards, make the payments on them and do the WHOLE ASSUMPTION PROCESS AGAIN, we did...........they then came back with WE HAD TO MUCH DEBT even though we were making the payments plus the mortgage payments as well just like we had been doing since he bought the home. It's a mother-daughter home & he moved us in & went back to Florida & only bought this home so they had a place to go when they came up for holidays and stuff, but lived in Florida. They both passed away now & Wells Fargo will not transfer the loan, which the loan is WAY MORE THAN WHAT THE HOME IS WORTH, but we were willing to just keep paying like we always have even with them raising the monthly payments. Is there something we can do so my sister can finally close the wills, my father passed in may of 2012 in Florida and my mother moved back here with us like my father wanted and passed away here in the home with us. Please let me know if there's anything we can do to get the home in our name and be able to keep it. Also they had said for us to just go through with just doing a process of us buying the home like it was up for sale, but yet we didn't qualify for the assumption.......

    • Deb

      Please research The Garn-St. Germain Act of 1982. Reading and researching It might help get you on the right track. Here is some info I googled:

      Most people do not know that so long as the heirs keep
      making payments on the mortgage, the lender is not allowed to
      foreclose. The heirs can even keep the mortgage in the deceased
      person's name. Additionally, so long as the heirs do not assume,
      refinance, or modify the loan, the lender cannot recover any money owed
      from the heirs personally; they may only recover what it is owed through
      the original mortgage or secured interest in the home. The Garn-St. Germain Act of 1982 protects family members from unauthorized
      lender enforcement of a due-on-sale clause in the above situations. As
      long as the heir does not assume the loan, or refinance or modify the
      loan, the heir does not personally owe money to the lender. When the
      loan continues to be under the original borrower's name, the heir can
      continue to make payments on the loan and stay personally not
      responsible. Lenders may attempt to force a loan modification or tack on
      extra fees, but they are not allowed to do so unless payments are
      missed.

  • S Grant

    I posted this somewhere else but this is what happened to me.All taxes and upkeep were utd and still they did this to me. They should be illegal.. After Trump hears why, they will be.I hope. They act like they are doing you a favor. Why do I know this? My husband died about 2 years after the loan and even though we had lived there over 35 years and the equity was mine just as much as it was his, I was not 62 or on the loan so they foreclosed and made me homeless.because they could. The rules said MAY foreclose not MUST. I am 70 now living in a 22ft travel that is what they did to me They treat the refugees better than they do us. They have changed the rule recently to let a spouse remain in their home if they are not on the loan. A lot of good that does me and the others they did this to. We are SOL all the way around and I wonder if Tom and Fonzie would think they are so great if they knew the truth. That was my families home where we raised our kids, and it affected all of us, but we did not matter and still don't. Our homes are gone...That is what the government did to me.I have always been totally responsible all my life but that did not matter. I thought this only happened to deadbeats but I was wrong. These are the most horrible sneaky way to rip someone off they ever came up with No one with an ounce of brains would even consider these loans if they knew the truth. They say research them. I am living proof what they will do to you and the only reason was because I was not 62 when the loan was made and not on the loan. A home equity loan would be better and you really would still own your home. We didn't even really need the money,, he just wanted it because he could.

    So Tom and Fonzie you may think these are great but you should not lead good decent people astray just because you don't know any better. Especially since now you know the truth. Each and every one of us, they have done this to, matter as much as anyone else. If it was your mother it would matter and that is all I have to say. Signed, still homeless, and 70 years old now.. Remember at age 62, the odds are all in their favor.

    • MikeinATL

      Honey, I feel for you. However, if you think Trump is going to save you, you have another thing coming. The words that come out of his mouth say he's for people like you, but his actions prove he is working for the big banks and corporations. If Trump has his way, the bank will come back at your for more money.

    • Philosopher Deplorabilis

      You learned the hard way that you should have been on the mortgage and the property deed. Why wasn't your name on the loan? It sounds like your husband had a reverse mortgage. Did you know about it? Very bizarre story.

      If you, and your deceased husband, had been responsible, as you say, you wouldn't have gotten a reverse mortgage. You would have had a revocable living trust set up, as well.

      As to getting a reverse mortgage when you didn't need the money? That is downright stupid.

      You can go online and do a do-it-yourself will and trust at places like Legal Zoom for few hundred dollars. Too late now. I strongly advise all seniors to never get a reverse mortgage. I understand why they get them but it is risky and you are still liable for taxes and maintenance. If money is that tight the best choice is to downsize and move.

  • S Grant

    Why don't people have living trust wills I think they are?

  • g wagner

    my mom passed 8/2015 I am the only heir and executor of the her estate, the house is in foreclosure but I'm still here 12/2016 I cant afford a mortgage, have not paid taxes but keep on the home owners insurance, I myself am claiming bankruptcy have no where to go, anything I can do ? the house is worth $274,000 but with bankruptcy putting up for sale would not be worth it ! stay until I'm kicked out ? or work with affordable housing alliance, any opinions would be appreciated and I'm on disability

  • Ronnie Danger

    ? My mother just passed and I have 2 sister's my mother didn't have a will and there was a reverse morgatage taken out on my mothers estate how should we approach the lender on us wanting to keep the property in the family and does it matter weather or not the estate has been my home all of our lives its been my home for over 40 years

    • Nonnie Sanders

      You've already handled this buy now, but for for other posters, the law requires the mortgage holder (reverse mortgage grantor) to offer the house to the heirs for 95 percent of the market value, with the mortgage. In other words, if the house is worth $200,000 and the mortgage is $175,000, you pay the bank $190,000 and the house is yours. If you can't do that, then the bank can sell it for as much or little as it wants and the rest goes to her estate to pay off any other debts. If there is no debt, you get anything over the $175,000, but the bank is going to take any offer it gets that will pay off the mortgage. They might even be willing to sell it to you for the remaining mortgage. The faster you move, the better, because interest will continue to accumulate.

  • Jim

    My father passed away

    I didn't want the house because he had a large loan against it.
    What happens if house went in tax sale, the purchaser contacted me to sign off on it before the redemption period. I didn't know this was possible but I called tax office and they said I can buy the house back just by paying the taxes. And the once it went to tax sale the title is clear.

    • Nonnie Sanders

      You’ve probably figured or found out all of this by now, but yes, if you are the owner of the property and you let it slide into tax foreclosure, then you can pay off the taxes just before the one year redemption period expires and the house is yours, free of the mortgage. You will have to pay an additional fee on top of the taxes (generally 10%) that goes to the original purchaser because they will have had to leave their money tied up in escrow for a year waiting to see if you would come through. The purchaser was a dummy to get in touch with you before the expiration date passed. Did you redeem the property?

  • Alena Potes

    file a reverse mortgage and you can stay as long as you like

  • Jessica

    Need some advice, I have read many of the comments, and many are similar to my situation, but still a bit different. So, my father went missing 7 years ago in another country :/. We do not have a dead certificate yet as the process to attain a death certificate without a body is quite complicated. My dad's mortgage was only under his name. I have taken over the payments since he went missing. My concern and greatest fear is that we will lose the house once a death certificate is turned in, which I have to report because of social security that my mom is entitled to and a life insurance he left that we have continued paying. Will the bank allow us to keep mortgage if we can afford monthly payment? My mom doesn't work, so she doesn't have an income or credit. I, fortunately, have a decent job and credit, but I can't get it refinance under my name because I first need to get into a house for my own family. I fear taken over this mortgage will hold me from getting a house of my own (dad's mortgage is for house where my mom still lives). Any advice on how the bank will proceed with a case that this is greatly appreciate it. I am scared to call the bank and open a can of worms.

    • Nonnie Sanders

      I assume you are not already living in the house and cannot use it for you and your own family. That said,when the death certificate is turned in (which I THINK is required after 7 years) then your mother will still continue to get your father's social security. It is called survivors' benefits. She should able to collect it in arrears once the death is proved by the death certificate. If you were under 18, you should have been receiving them as well. You don't mention how large the life insurance policy is, but you might consider using that to either pay off the mortgage completely or put it into an annuity that would make payments to your mother over time. Also, in most states the house would go to the wife, even if her name is not on the mortgage, unless there are other undisclosed facts here, like your mother had remarried, etc. If you feel you must continue to help out your mom (admirable of you, by the way), getting the house in your name (since you are making the payments) won't hurt your future housing except possibly a few perks for 'first time buyers'. In that case if you are applying for a mortgage with your husband or partner, the bank would probably look at you and your partner as a different, separate entity and grant the first timer perks. Especially if you've proved your good at making those payments! If the issue is that you can't afford your mom's house and a future house at the same time, then you definitely should not over extend yourself. Get the best deal for her house that you can and set her up in her own apartment.

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  • Philosopher Deplorabilis

    Walk away.

  • Philosopher Deplorabilis

    Smart. Your comment is the best one I have read. Too many people fail to plan and once they are gone it is too late.

  • Philosopher Deplorabilis

    90 years old and the bank gave her a HELOC? Wow.

  • Trevor

    Walk away!!!!!! Leave your parents debt behind and focus on your own life.

  • Annyce

    My mother passed away a couple of days ago and she doesn't have a will that we know of. We have made the necessary claims to her insurance policies but we have not received any information regarding her home. The home only has a 1 or 2 left to be paid off but again we don't know the next step. We have yet to call her mortgage company due to things we have read and heard. ANY ADVICE.

    • Nonnie Sanders

      what state did she live in? If she died without a will - called "intestate"- most likely then the county will appoint someone to 'administer' the estate. They will take an accounting of all of her assets - house, car, nic nacs, sell it all and pay off any debts she owes, starting with taxes and including the mortgage, car payments, etc. Then, anything that is left will be divided among the next of kin in a very strict scenario; usually divided equally among children, then siblings if there are no children, etc.

  • Melissa Frye

    My Mother passed away, just over a month ago & still owes, less than $14,000 on the home. There are 7 children & I'm The baby & yes, she made it clear, to the rest of the children, that she wanted me to stay in her home, like I have, for several years now, but did not leave a will. Now I have 1 sister, trying to be administrater, so her & her husband can sell the home, out from under me. My Mother Wanted me to have the home & they all knew it, but of course, they have a little more money than I do, so what can I do to keep the house, without fighting with my family, because they're seeing $$$ signs???