Kristen Stewart broke a big rule: Don't sleep with your boss

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Here's the seamy situation.

A 22-year-old woman cheats on her boyfriend with her boss -- her 41-year-old, married-with-children boss. They get caught. They admit the affair. They apologize.

From a financial standpoint, who do you think is going to suffer the most from this workplace tryst?

Yeah, the woman. She always does.

Now if this sounds a little familiar, it’s because this is the real lesson to be learned from the entertainment world’s current scandal.

The young woman is Kristen Stewart, part of the acting duo fronting the juggernaut Twilight franchise.

The boyfriend is the other half, sparkly vampire-playing Robert Pattinson.

The boss is Rupert Sanders, who directed Stewart's last movie, Snow White and the Huntsman.

Of course, the Hollywood version will be a little different than the typical office affair.

In one "Wow, really?" twist, Sanders' wife played Stewart's mother in that film.

Nor do most workplace trysts explode all over the Internet they way this one has, with some of Stewart’s most appalled and alienated fans posting Twitter death threats.

But the key fact remains the same: The quickest way for a woman to torpedo her career is to sleep with her boss. Especially her married-with-kids boss.

We see it time and time again. The woman’s career and financial well-being suffers far more than the man’s.

Is Rupert finished as a movie director? Of course not.

But will Stewart be passed over for roles because of this? You bet.

And a lot of people are going to wonder if she really earned her roles in the first place, which is undercutting the work she did to get to the point of being a Hollywood starlet.

There’s already a story on NBCNews.com with the headline: “Sure, she's rich, but can Kristen Stewart act?”

I don’t see anyone asking: “Sure, he’s rich, but can Rupert Sanders direct?”

And this is far from over.

Everyone expects the final installment of the Twilight movies, which is scheduled for release on Nov. 16, to be as wildly popular and profitable as the first four films.

If it isn’t, who do you think will be the very public fall guy? Or gal?

I don’t know how to change the double standard our society imposes on office affairs.

But, ladies, we can stop making stupid decisions.

Don't sleep with your married boss.

Not only is it such a cliché, but the financial risks are too great.

Sure, you can stay at your job and deal with the humiliation and knowledge that most of your colleagues will shun you as a home wrecker.

Your indiscretion will also come up every time you’re considered for a plum assignment, a raise or promotion.

If you decide to leave and start over somewhere else, you’ll be walking away from all of the experience and credibility you’ve worked so hard to build.

And that's assuming you find a comparable job in this dreadful economy.

Look, I know the situation sucks, and it isn't fair.

Stewart may be mega famous, but she's still a 22 year old who hooked up with an older, more experienced man. It takes two people to have an affair, and Stewart wasn't the one who was married with kids.

It also takes one person to say “no.” Be that person. Think not just of your future broken heart, but your future broken finances.